Before you conceive: five things to think about

Surely there have been mothers over the years who have shared their experiences with you. Either they highlighted the difficulties they faced or they told you how it fulfils their role as a mother. What is certain is that we are built to want to perpetuate our species. But in today’s times, there are couples who put the moment of conception under the microscope. Am I ready to become a mother? If this question is on your mind, find out with Barza five things to think about before you conceive!

The moment you choose to become a mother should find you ready for new responsibilities. It’s important to be comfortable both with yourself and in your relationship. Ideally, embrace change, not burden yourself with it. Here’s what’s worth thinking about carefully.

Consider the state of your health. Are you okay, both physically and emotionally?

In the early years of your child’s life, you have very little time for yourself. As a new mum, you can be affected by hormonal changes, tiredness, and the pounds gained during pregnancy.

You may be unhappy because of lack of time for household chores, financial problems or an uninvolved partner. There are a lot of factors that can often overwhelm you. Take the time to open yourself up to inspired choices, without letting thoughts of despair take over.

Can you rely on your partner that you will overcome all the problems together?

For example, in 2020, during the pandemic, an estimated 20 million mothers and husbands were left jobless, and their daily lives and earning potential were shattered.

The EU 4 Gender Equality programme aimed to discourage gender stereotypes and sent fathers to a special school. So far, around 20 such schools have been set up, where men learn to be actively involved in raising their children. Do you feel able to get involved in your child’s upbringing and education?

Be honest: do you really want a baby?

Do you want to become a mother just because your biological clock is ticking or just to save your relationship (why can’t a baby save your relationship)? Remember that your baby is not responsible for your happiness.

You don’t have to give up on your dreams

The child will only temporarily block your plans for the future if you are sufficiently motivated and if you dedicate yourself to your profession with pleasure. If you choose to go back to work at some point, know that he will be proud to see his mother fulfilled and confident in her own strengths.

There is no right time, but there are responsible choices

Maybe you’re at the point where you’re sitting with your list in front of you and writing down all the pros and cons to see how the scales tip when it comes to your first pregnancy. You also often hear from others that you may never feel ready enough to bring a child into the world. Maybe you have acquaintances who have been through maternity who complain constantly. You should know that there are situations in which they have and why, but remember: every man has the power to write his own story, and it can be a particularly beautiful one!